Yesterday I was sparring with a commentator on TGA. He made the point that many people have become too sensitive to others who point out the error of their ways.
I do not necessarily disagree. Sometimes I think people do need to man-up and lighten up a bit.
However, he used the example of the news anchor who rec’d a letter from a man who told her that her poor physical condition was a bad role model to young women. (She was fairly overweight.) My reader seemed to think she had overreacted to his constructive criticism.
Rather than reflecting on this man’s words and then fixing herself, she asked some very pointed questions:
- Did he think she was unaware that she was overweight and needed him to point this out?
- Did he think that a woman he admitted he seldom watched on TV would care about his opinion?
- Is there a particular reason why she should care what he thinks?
- Did he bother to get to know her, the three daughters she’s raising, and the other aspects of her life?
- She basically told him to mind his own business and go jump in a lake.
Back to our discussion.
I tried to think of a way to explain in my usual acid, sarcastic way that not everyone is all that thrilled with unsolicited advice. Especially when it’s about something extremely personal, such as as whom one shares his life with.
But that seemed like too much work. So I told him to go ask his fat wife what she thought about the news anchor’s reaction.
It did not go over well. At all.
Then to add insult to injury, I suggested she consider losing some weight and gaining some ambition so they could have some nicer things in life. Then I insulted her complexion and told her she’d feel better if she did something about it, and that the department stores would offer her free advice.
And I closed each suggestion with the assurance I was only saying this out of love and had only their best interests at heart.
Here’s a newsflash: Gay people are real people. With real feelings. And people they love.
When a naive college student proclaims in the media that the most important relationship in my life is sinful, she needs to be prepared for some heavy push-back coming her way.
I’m thrilled she has an opinion and the opportunity to share it.
The reality is what she thinks of my life and my relationship with Ricky doesn’t mean squat to us. And I’m really not interested in reading about it in the newspaper, any more than she’d be interested in reading about why I think she has some unresolved issues with her controlling parents.
She has every right in the world to live as she chooses, and zero right in the world to force her beliefs into our legal system.
To head off the obvious coming comments, making gay marriage legal does not mean you will be required to marry someone of the same gender, so knock it off. You actively accessed my blog page, so if you don’t want to hear what I have to say, that is 100% within your control.
And the bestiality argument is lame, so save it.
Today’s Gay Agenda: I regret hurting the feelings of the commentator’s wife. And I also hope they got a glimmer of what it feels like to have a complete stranger shout from the rooftops what he thinks of your life and the one you love.